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If Families want to see growth, Spiritually, Financially, in Togetherness, Peace, Love, Joy, then we need to be Raising Leaders! The picture above is a few shots of our children. I pray everyday for the Lord to help me raise them to be leaders. The Bible gives us awesome examples of how to do that. The story of Asher is short, but gives us insight on how to raise leaders. Lets see how.
Story of Asher
I Chronicles 7:40 “All these were the children of Asher, heads of their fathers’ houses, choice men, mighty men of valor, chief leaders. And they were recorded by genealogies among the army fit for battle; their number was twenty-six thousand.”
4 Parenting Principles that we can learn from Asher
1. He raised his children to be leaders.
A. The Bible says Asher’s sons were the “heads of the father’s house”. They weren’t just hanging around the house, eating food, playing video games, and taking up space. According to I Chronicles 7:40 , these men grew up to fulfill a leadership role.
B. You know as a Leader, Asher and his sons set the tone and direction for their homes and future generations. One of the worst things that can happen to a family is to have parents who do not adequately fulfill their leadership roles. They want to be called parents without the commitment of parenting.
Remember men, that “headship” is not a title, but it is a responsibility. In order to claim the title Man, a leader must also own the responsibility that goes along with it.
2. Asher raised his children to excel in all things.
A. The Bible says they were “Choice Men”. That means they grew up to become top of the line in all that they did.
B. Being of “Choice” means they had great ethical character and they accepted their responsibilities.
C. They held high standards that wouldn’t allow them to settle for mediocrity.
Which means the Parents of these children clearly expressed expectations coupled with consistent follow-through. And that right there produces responsible kids.
These children were not just trying to make it and get by. Rather, Asher and his wife raised them in a spirit of excellence and integrity. And even though Asher didn’t have a perfect track record, he sought to better his own character while steering his children to a higher plane than he had experienced.
3. Asher raised Warriors- Men of Valor
A. I Chronicles 7:40 says he raised “Mighty Men of valor”. This describes individuals that are brave, courageous, and willing to risk themselves for others or for the betterment of the whole. Valor means boldness. A person of valor is willing to take a stand when a stand needs to be taken. Asher raised children who grew up into adults of conviction.
B. To raise leaders, we must instill in them a heart of valor- a spirit that will stay strong despite the challenges and enemies that they might face on any given day.
4. Asher raised children who would serve others. They became mentors. We read they were “heads of Princes”.
A. A healthy home is not an isolated home— it’s a home where family members are encouraged to get involved in local activities, as well as service opportunities in the community and beyond.
B. Asher’s children not only did 1-3, they also took care of their country. Asher raised leaders who understood that the stability and advancement of the Kingdom began with them, weaving through their families into congregations and communities and ultimately impacting their nation.
Unfortunately, today many parents have lost sight of the long term impact their children will one day make. My challenge to you, Parents, is to Start Now! No matter what age your children are, it is not to late to start raising them as Leaders!
Below is a story that I hope encourages you today.
Don't Hope, Friend... Decide!
-- By Michael Hargrove
While waiting to pick up a friend at the airport in Portland, Oregon, I had one of those life changing experiences that you hear other people talk about. You know, the kind that sneaks up on you unexpectedly? Well, this one occurred a mere two feet away from me! Straining to locate my friend among the passengers deplaning through the jetway, I noticed a man coming toward me carrying two light bags. He stopped right next to me to greet his family.
First, he motioned to his youngest son (maybe six years old) as he laid down his bags. They gave each other a long, and movingly loving hug. As they separated enough to look in each other's face, I heard the father say, "It's so good to see you, son. I missed you so much!" His son smiled somewhat shyly, diverted his eyes, and replied softly, "Me too, Dad!"
Then the man stood up, gazed in the eyes of his oldest son (maybe 9) and while cupping his son's face in his hands he said, "You're already quite the young man. I love you very much Zach!" They too hugged a most loving, tender hug. His son said nothing. No reply was necessary.
While this was happening, a baby girl (perhaps one or one and a half) was squirming excitedly in her mother's arms, never once taking her little eyes off the wonderful sight of her returning father. The man said, "Hi babygirl!" as he gently took the child from her mother. He quickly kissed her face all over and then held her close to his chest while rocking her from side to side. The little girl instantly relaxed and simply laid her head on his shoulder and remained motionless in total pure contentment.
After several moments, he handed his daughter to his oldest son and declared, "I've saved the best for last!" and proceeded to give his wife the longest, most passionate kiss I ever remember seeing. He gazed into her eyes for several seconds and then quietly said, "I love you so much!". They stared into each other's eyes, beaming big smiles at one another, while holding both hands. For an instant, they reminded me of newlyweds but I knew by the age of their kids that they couldn't be. I puzzled about it for a moment, then realized how totally engrossed I was in the wonderful display of unconditional love not more than an arm's length away from me. I suddenly felt uncomfortable, as if I were invading something sacred, but was amazed to hear my own voice nervously ask, "Wow! How long have you two been married?"
"Been together fourteen years total, married twelve of those." he replied without breaking his gaze from his lovely wife's face.
"Well then, how long have you been away?" I asked. The man finally looked at me, still beaming his joyous smile and told me, "Two whole days!"
Two days?! I was stunned! I was certain by the intensity of the greeting I just witnessed that he'd been gone for at least several weeks, if not months, and I know my expression betrayed me. So, I said almost offhandedly, hoping to end my intrusion with some semblance of grace (and to get back to searching for my friend), "I hope my marriage is still that passionate after twelve years!"
The man suddenly stopped smiling. He looked me straight in the eye, and with an intensity that burned right into my soul, he told me something that left me a different person. He told me, "Don't hope friend...decide." Then he flashed me his wonderful smile again, shook my hand and said, "God bless!". With that, he and his family turned and energetically strode away together.
I was still watching that special man and his exceptional family walk just out of sight when my friend came up to me and asked, "What'cha looking at?" Without hesitating, and with a curious sense of certainty, I replied, "My future!"
1. What is one of the principles you need to work on most?
2. Find a ministry or a charity to serve with as a family.
3. Decide to go above and beyond just getting by.
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