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It's another Wifey Wednesday, and the picture above is of the beautiful ladies in my life. My Wife is an awesome nurturer who takes initiative to teach our daughters to be strong and courageous, loving and caring, no matter what life throws at them. As we pray for our girls, we have faith and confidence that God will lead them to be a beautiful crown that he will use for His glory in the future. So today, let us dive in to how a Wife is a Crown to her husband.
Proverbs 12:4 says, “A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones." Did you know crowns relate to wisdom. Proverbs 4:8,9 says, “If you prize wisdom, she will make you great. Embrace her, and she will honor you. She will place a lovely wreath on your head; she will present you with a beautiful crown.” Now what does a crown do? A crown encircles the head. It originated from a word that means “to encircle”, much like in battle when you attack or protect. Just like this, wisdom surrounds and protects the mind and it brings honor to the “head” of the one who has it.
The verse declares that the godly woman also is a crown to her husband. When she is received as God’s gift, her husband will benefit from God’s wisdom through her. It’s just like Abraham did from Sarah in Genesis 21:12 when God told Abraham to listen to her concerning Hagar and her son. The husband of such a woman, as it says in Proverbs 31:23, will be “well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other civic leaders”. Now I know men no longer sit at the city gates and hobnob with other men about important things. Well actually we do, just not at the city gates. It may be in the office, or at church, or where ever you hang out in these modern times. People see, through you, of what a great wife you have when you speak well of her and the wisdom you have and share.
What is my point? The woman who cultivates her relationship with God first, then relates to her husband relevantly, she will powerfully influence him in every area of his life. So, my one question to women, do you want to influence your husband in every area of his life? If you do, this is vital to doing just that.
Truly effective people are those who are turned from their own short-sighted agenda to God’s eternal purposes. There needs to be a shift in our thinking to where we are thinking and doing eternally and not for the now. I know there are plenty of things you have to do now, but is all that you do NOW have eternal ramifications? I say this to everyone, not just women, but the men that receive her as a gift, you all have a purpose in this life. God has placed in both of you a purpose. That purpose should be passed on to the next generation. Your children will have their own purpose, but they will see in you and through you what their purpose could be. Men, your wife is not just a jewel, but the whole crown. Treat her and speak well of her in a way that beautifully displays that crown.